YOU ARE INSECURE
It’s more important to look at your relationship through your own eyes than portray it for the world to see and judge.”
It’s very painful whenever I recall the time before social Media came to raise when our only means of communicating to friends was through letter writing or phone calls,…..remembering…….. I recall my first boyfriend in High School used to send one of my friends to call me in-order for the two of us to meet.
That was so nice and Lovely.
We had no access to celebrity relationship life,we hear their music and feel waoho,that’s so nice and never saw what was going on in their personal life,the celebrity life.
Its always so lovely when I see couples sharing photos of themselves on social media platform.I glance at them and admire the love and care they two beautiful souls share in love.I always wanted to post my ex who was then my heaven and earth, with no imperfection but perfections .I wanted to show the universe that I and him are one thing in chemistry.I realized I was insecure of the relationship.I always asked him to take a picture of me using his phone but he often declined,even to share it on my social media platform,he always said”What do you want to Show” and to cut the long story short,I was Insecure.
Insecurity is an inner feeling of being threaten and or inadequate way where you think your partner is doing something behind your back although it’s not the case.We don’t have to feel insecure with our loved ones around or far away from us.
It is always OKAY to share your relationships on social media if both you two are comfortable with,you feel it makes you happy or that must be the only form of saying “I LOVE YOU” and there is no other way.
While social Networking has had a hand in strengthening Relationships ,it has also had great influence in causing Insecurity in most Romantic Relationships and some of this insecurities are chronic.
Chronic insecurity robs you of your peace and prevents you from being able to engage with your partner in a relaxed and authentic way.The actions that come from insecurity — always asking for reassurance, jealousy, accusing, and snooping — erode trust, aren’t attractive, and can push a partner away.
Men and Women are constantly shown images of how Ideal Relationships are supposed to look and be,such as posting each other on social media and this has caused insecurity in relationships that don’t live up to the ‘ridiculous standards’
Can’t you be happy in your private love life without showcasing your unhappy relationship to everyone on social media who will take advantage of your insecurity for their security.Our parents are surely happy in their marriage in that they are able to raise us up with both mother and father under the same roof not this mannerism of single mother ,baby mamas and baby dads and single fathers.
You are violating the privacy of your relationship and your partners’ and it is showing your desperacy need to feel important and be noticed.
In Jane Greer’s article What About Me “It’s more important to look at your relationship through your own eyes than portray it for the world to see and judge.”
She suggest that is of great value to keep your love relationship private than exposing it to the World.
Ideally,couples who post their partners on social media platforms are closely not happy in their relationship or their relationships do not last long,neither end well.
You can be happily in a Romantic Relationship with your family or loved ones without necessarily posting it or them on social media non-stop.
Value your love happiness and keep it Private..Why? ’You Are Insecure’
